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Sometimes things work out, but most often they don't.
Reality is different from our expectations, and most of the time that doesn't really bother us.
When the unexpected happens, it's usually not an issue.
We barely notice the difference between our expectations and reality, and we live our lives as if none of it mattered.
Then there are other times -- when our anticipation takes root and grows over months or years of waiting -- when real life pales in comparison to our fantasies.
The more eager we grow, the more painful the experience is when it's not what we wanted.
That’s the issue with expectations: We usually overshoot them. We aim for perfection, but we discover that reality isn't so different from the lives we've been living. It’s important to be optimistic, but it’s just as important to be It's necessary that we understand the statistical chances of one thing happening versus another.
The more you accept that there is always a chance that things won’t go the way that you think they will, the less likely you are to be caught off-guard when that happens.
Unfortunately, I’ve come to learn that sometimes -- no matter how aware you are that things may not work out -- there is no such thing as sufficient mental preparation.
Not all of your hopes and dreams are going to come true, and when one of them dies in front of your eyes, it hurts more than you could possibly imagine.
And if that dream is a future with someone you love, your world will be turned upside down.